a time to…

One Oak - Four Seasonsthis past weekend i facilitated a reflection exercise for my ex-good-christian-women’s group & i thought it’d share it here just in case any of you want to give it a try.  it was our semester wrap & i wanted to do something that gave us some room to reflect & consider this season in our journey. the ecclesiastes 3 passage came to mind, so i used it as a template.  so many beautiful things emerged!

anyway, i thought i’d share it here in case any of you wanted to use it either personally or with groups you are in.

here’s the template if you want to download & use it.

here was mine:

for everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.

a time for quiet strength to be born, and a time for insecurity & self doubt to die.

a time to plant courage, and a time to harvest peace.

a time to kill self-hatred, and a time to heal from fear of abandonment.

a time to tear down walls that protect me, and a time to build up hearts that love me.

a time to cry about how hard it’s been, and a time to laugh about how hard it’s been.

a time to grieve over the loss-of-my-back-as-i-once-knew-it, and a time to dance because i still can.

a time to scatter people who don’t give a rip about me, and a time to gather people who do.

a time to embrace my voice, and a time to turn away from worrying about what other people think.

a time to search for balance, and a time to quit searching for the finish line.

a time to keep what’s important, and a time to throw away all the rest.

a time to tear apart “right doctrine”, and a time to mend what i deeply believe.

a time to be quiet about what isn’t, and a time to speak about what is.

a time to love slow & steady transformation in myself & others, and a time to hate impatience.

a time for war against resistance, and a time for peace in the chaos.


also, some of you saw this on my facebook, but i thought i’d share it here, too.  this was my favorite song at the u2 concert on saturday night (it was truly an amazing show) & definitely fit into the conversation on “a time to….”  enjoy.






Kathy Escobar

Kathy Escobar co-pastors at The Refuge, a Christian community and mission center in North Denver and is the author of Faith Shift: Finding Your Way Forward When Everything You Believe is Coming Apart and several other books.


  • What a great exercise. Beautiful Words. A time for everything…

    • thanks for reading, jenn. i’m really glad you’re here from afar.

  • Hi,
    Lots of poetry was spoken Sunday AM. I really like this reflection on the times of our lives. And all I can say is I wish I had been able to go to U2……powerful and beautiful words. Love ya gal!!

    • that was some seriously pretty poetry, wasn’t it. i wish you were there, too, at u2. next time! xo

  • Such a great template, and even though it was super hard, it was worth it. 🙂 In moving from a place where there is really only one weather season, I am learning more than I bargained for in life seasons, too. A time to let myself feel, love, and heal.. Way easier to write than to do. Thanks for being such an amazing leader. 🙂

    • thanks my dear and way to be brave…yeah, you really are in 4 season land aren’t you, not just in terms of the colorado weather…love ya.


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