one image

* this post is part of the january synchroblog, which is centered on new beginnings. i have loved partaking in the practice of “one word” for the past few years; even though i am one of those people who starts out strong and loses steam by about april, i appreciate the intention and love hearing other people’s words and hope for new beginnings, too!  at the bottom of this post is a link list of other bloggers writing on the same topic.

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last year i was part of a life-coaching group to gain some traction in a few areas of my life, and it was so helpful in more ways than i probably even know.   one part that i loved was that we started with an image that reflected our hope for the year.

not a word, an image.

i had done words in different ways for years before but never an image.

i thought about it for a long time and it was interesting what came–a river.  i am a water person and my go-to imagery is usually the beach or a lake, but i couldn’t shake that the image that i needed for 2013 was a river.

rivers describe my life much more than a beach or a lake.  always moving.  got to roll with it. resisting it won’t work. moments of rest & stillness.  leaning into it and going with the flow. strong.  intentional. peaceful in a weird, paradoxical way.

phrases like “you can’t push the river” and “peace like a river attendeth my way” and “i will extend peace to her like a river” and yes, even the creedence clearwater song “rolling like the river” lingered all year long.  i printed this picture and kept the imagery in front of me as best i could.

recently a friend of mine who is a firefighter and water rescue diver told me three interesting things about rivers from their training–they are powerful, they are relentless, and they are predictable.  i have been meditating on those since he shared them, especially the “predictable” one because life doesn’t feel very predictable on the surface.  but when i take a little deeper look at it, there are parts of life that are known, that i can count on. it made me think of something a friend shared last month at our house of refuge. they are from a book called the five things we cannot change and the happiness we find by embracing them by david richo.

here are the 5 things:

1. everything changes and ends

2. things do not always go according to plan

3. life is not always fair

4. pain is a part of life

5. people are not loving and loyal all the time

these truths are easy to respond to with “of course!” but the reality is that i so often resist them in different ways. even though rivers are powerful & relentless, they are also predictable. and i can count on these realities of life to show up over and over again.

resisting them won’t help, embracing them will.

so instead of picking a word for 2014 or even a new image for 2014, i decided my new beginning was to just stick with this one for a longer period of time because i think there’s much more i need to learn from it in this wild year that lies ahead.

if you’ve got an image, i’d love to know what it is!

peace, kathy

ps: on a totally different topic, i’ve got a post up at my friend phil shepherd’s blog on patheos called dignified dialogue. i’ve written about that here before, but this is a little summary of not just the 5 guidelines but some other questions we can explore in these hard conversations, too.

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other bloggers writing this month about new beginnings:

• Jen Bradbury – Enough
• Abbie Watters – New Beginnings
• Cara Strickland – Bursting
• Carol Kuniholm – Acorns, King, Beloved Community
• Done With Religion – A New Year, A New Beginning
• Kelly Stanley – A Blank Canvas
• Glenn Hager – Overcoming The Biggest Obstacle To Reaching Your Goals
• Dave Criddle – Get Some New Thinking
• David Derbyshire – Changed Priorities Ahead
• J A Carter – The Year of Reading Scripture for the First Time
• Damon – New Beginnings: Consider These 5 Questions Before Tying The Knot
• Jeffrey Kranz – Where To Start Reading The Bible
• Joanna990 – On survival – my one word for 2014
• K W Leslie – Atonement
• Happy – my One Word 365 surprise
• Michelle Moseley – Ends and Beginnings
• Matthew Bryant – A New Creation
• Liz Dyer – It’s a new year and time to make some new mistakes
• Edwin Pastor Fedex Aldrich – Foreclosed: The beginning of a new dream
• Jennifer Clark Tinker – Starting a New Year Presently
• Loveday Anyim – New Year New Resolutions
• Loveday Anyim – New Year Resolution Dreamers
• Loveday Anyim – New Year Resolution Specialists
• Loveday Anyin – New Year Resolution Planners and Achievers
• Jeremy Myers – Publish Your Book with Redeeming Press
• Amy Hetland – New Beginnings
• Phil Lancaster – New Beginnings
• Mallory Pickering – Something Old, Something New
• Margaret Boelman – The Other Side of Grief