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5 false things the church often teaches us about healing

By Kathy / January 15, 2014 / 44 Comments

i have a theory about healing:  most of us need it, a lot of us want it, and many of our church experiences have taught us some things that make it harder to get. this makes me sad, mainly because church is supposed to be a place of healing, the safest place on earth to […]

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By Kathy / December 10, 2013 / 7 Comments

the other night at the refuge a friend slipped me a vodka bottle and said, “here, i really wanted to drink it but i know it’ll just mess things up more.” i was so proud of her and promptly went to the bathroom and dumped it out (i am really good at throwing out all […]

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habits of the heart

By Kathy / October 29, 2013 / 5 Comments

through an awesome friend’s connection, i recently became part of an inter-faith group here in denver, faith leaders from many different traditions coming together once a month to share and learn together. i am new to it so just kind of getting the groove and listening as much as i can, but it has been […]

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formation friday: enneagram love (and hate)

By Kathy / October 26, 2013 / 46 Comments

i know so many people despise personality tools. they hate how they put us in boxes and label us and limit us.  i get that, but i think they can be really helpful tools to better understand ourselves, too. a few years ago i intersected with the enneagram, which in some christian circles is considered […]

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everyone's fighting some kind of battle.

By Kathy / June 5, 2013 / 40 Comments

a few weeks ago a dear friend from high school posted this picture of me on facebook. i’m totally embarrassed to share it here, but i thought i’d be brave to make a point. yes, i was the basketball homecoming queen my senior year of high school. don’t hold it against me. and yes, homecoming […]

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corrective experiences

By Kathy / May 28, 2013 / 26 Comments

“you’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret to be kept. we’re going public with this, as public as a city on a hill. if i make you light-bearers, you don’t think i’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? i’m putting you on […]

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what seems to help in the midst of pain

By Kathy / May 14, 2013 / 44 Comments

“when we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. the friend who can be silent with us […]

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formation friday: forgiveness

By Kathy / March 22, 2013 / 22 Comments

it’s been a few weeks since i’ve posted a formation friday. this is a crazy month for us at the refuge & my kids home for spring break & getting moving on the book & all kinds of other typical chaos.  it’s been a really good lent at the refuge focused on “hunger.” one of the things […]

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whatever you do, don't let them take your faith.

By Kathy / February 11, 2013 / 58 Comments

almost exactly 7 years ago i lost my job as a pastor on a mega-church staff. it was one of the craziest, weirdest, surreal, dysfunctional experiences of my life and there are some days where i still shake my head and wonder “did that really happen?” but oh, it sure did.  it was ugly & […]

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comfortable in our own skin

By Kathy / December 5, 2011 / 30 Comments

one of the things i’ve always tried to do here is write from my heart. to be as honest as i could.  to not worry about who would think what.  it’s pretty hard to do!  there are so many different tribes out here in online-land with different passions & people & ways-of-living-out-their-faith.  for the past […]

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