a time to…

One Oak - Four Seasonsthis past weekend i facilitated a reflection exercise for my ex-good-christian-women’s group & i thought it’d share it here just in case any of you want to give it a try.  it was our semester wrap & i wanted to do something that gave us some room to reflect & consider this season in our journey. the ecclesiastes 3 passage came to mind, so i used it as a template.  so many beautiful things emerged!

anyway, i thought i’d share it here in case any of you wanted to use it either personally or with groups you are in.

here’s the template if you want to download & use it.

here was mine:

for everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.

a time for quiet strength to be born, and a time for insecurity & self doubt to die.

a time to plant courage, and a time to harvest peace.

a time to kill self-hatred, and a time to heal from fear of abandonment.

a time to tear down walls that protect me, and a time to build up hearts that love me.

a time to cry about how hard it’s been, and a time to laugh about how hard it’s been.

a time to grieve over the loss-of-my-back-as-i-once-knew-it, and a time to dance because i still can.

a time to scatter people who don’t give a rip about me, and a time to gather people who do.

a time to embrace my voice, and a time to turn away from worrying about what other people think.

a time to search for balance, and a time to quit searching for the finish line.

a time to keep what’s important, and a time to throw away all the rest.

a time to tear apart “right doctrine”, and a time to mend what i deeply believe.

a time to be quiet about what isn’t, and a time to speak about what is.

a time to love slow & steady transformation in myself & others, and a time to hate impatience.

a time for war against resistance, and a time for peace in the chaos.


also, some of you saw this on my facebook, but i thought i’d share it here, too.  this was my favorite song at the u2 concert on saturday night (it was truly an amazing show) & definitely fit into the conversation on “a time to….”  enjoy.






Kathy Escobar

Kathy Escobar is dedicated to creating safe and brave spaces for transformation and healing in real life, online, and outside. She co-pastors at The Refuge, a hub for healing community, social action, and creative collaboration in North Denver, co-directs #communityheals, a non-profit organization dedicated to making spaces for transformation accessible for all, and is the author of Practicing: Changing Yourself to Change the World, Faith Shift: Finding Your Way Forward When Everything You Believe is Coming Apart and several other books.


  • What a great exercise. Beautiful Words. A time for everything…

    • thanks for reading, jenn. i’m really glad you’re here from afar.

  • Hi,
    Lots of poetry was spoken Sunday AM. I really like this reflection on the times of our lives. And all I can say is I wish I had been able to go to U2……powerful and beautiful words. Love ya gal!!

    • that was some seriously pretty poetry, wasn’t it. i wish you were there, too, at u2. next time! xo

  • Such a great template, and even though it was super hard, it was worth it. 🙂 In moving from a place where there is really only one weather season, I am learning more than I bargained for in life seasons, too. A time to let myself feel, love, and heal.. Way easier to write than to do. Thanks for being such an amazing leader. 🙂

    • thanks my dear and way to be brave…yeah, you really are in 4 season land aren’t you, not just in terms of the colorado weather…love ya.


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