breaks are good (puppies are too).

A chunk of years ago I started taking a month of blogging in the summer; then it was two months, and for the last few years it’s been three. It’s always been a good decision for my soul. This year, I need it more than ever.  Even though in general I haven’t blogged as much this past season, and my hope of signing off June 1st slipped away with things transitioning at The Refuge. So I decided to wait a little longer. I’m glad I did so that you all knew what was happening around here. But now, it’s time. My heart is weary. June definitely wasn’t what I had planned when I was dreaming of summer a few months ago, but I am grateful to have made it through.

Now, it’s time to unplug a bit more. Get my summer on. Spend more time in the quiet. (I have already been surfing and water skiing a bunch and that–and my puppy–have carried me through so far).

I appreciate your love and prayers for me, for The Refuge. So much good will come out of this hard, I am sure of it, but the in between is always uncomfortable. I’m definitely in The Squeeze.

For those of you are just landing here, there’s 8 solid years of oh-so-many posts. If you’re interested in equality, just choose that category. Or church stuff or faith shifts or all kinds of other possibilities from the menu.

For those of you who have been reading for a long time, thank you.  This space has always been a gift to me.

There are a few links to follow that I never got around to sharing here during this season if you want a few things to read or listen to during the break:

  • I’m honored to be part of the support network that was miraculously created right after Orlando called Will Listen With Love; it’s a network of clergy, mental health providers, spiritual directors, and other community sacred-space holders willing to offer LGBQTIA support for anyone seeking it. All of the details are on the site and the Facebook Page.
  • I write monthly for Sheloves Magazine, and here are the last few months of posts if you haven’t seen them yet:

You Can’t Go with All the Flows

The Squeeze

Sisterhood is Not Bound by Blood

Making the Invisible Visible

An Equality Love Story

What are You Learning?

  • And of course there’s Faith Circus. We finished Season One and are hoping to start Season Two later this summer but here are all the links if you haven’t listened in yet.

Episode 1 and 2 – An Evangelical and a Progressive Walk into a Church Plant Part 1 and Part 2

Episode 3 – Pet Peeves

Episode 4 – I Don’t Like Who You Like 

Episode 5 – Why Progressive Christian?

Episode 6  – Why Evangelical?

Episode 7 and 8 – How to Vote Like a Christian Part 1 and Part 2

Episode 9 and 10 – Abortion Part 1 and Part 2

Episode 11 – The Refuge 10 Year Anniversary

Episode 12 – 8 Ways to Shrink a Church

Episode 13 – Transgender Bathrooms and Facebook

Episode 14 – Narcissism and The Church 

Episode 15 – Season One Wrap

Special Edition – Our Hardest Decision in 10 Years 

That’s plenty.

I always love to hear your thoughts, either here or on Facebook or email or whatever works.

Peace and hope to you this summer. I hope somehow, some way, you soak in rest and goodness and joy and beauty in the midst of whatever story you’re living.

See you in September.

love, kathy

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Kathy Escobar

Kathy Escobar is dedicated to creating safe and brave spaces for transformation and healing in real life, online, and outside. She co-pastors at The Refuge, a hub for healing community, social action, and creative collaboration in North Denver, co-directs #communityheals, a non-profit organization dedicated to making spaces for transformation accessible for all, and is the author of Practicing: Changing Yourself to Change the World, Faith Shift: Finding Your Way Forward When Everything You Believe is Coming Apart and several other books.


  • again, you know nothing about refuge, equality, God’s will, right and wrong, sin. You lead far too many astray and to destruction.

    • Actually, Kathy and her friends at the Refuge and elsewhere have dozens of years of experience supporting what they believe and what they share with others. Your experience is obviously different from theirs. I’ll pray you find a blog in your trolling more to your liking. Stretching our vision to allow other points of view can often be painful.

      • People use the word troll when someone they like or favor is criticized. It is a term that is used far too loosely.

        It does not matter how many years experience they have supporting what they believe, if their beliefs are not true or even close to accurate, experience does not make it so.

        People like Escobar and her associates forget that it is God’s church and it is his rules that count. If they disagree with his rules then they are not representing God but their own personal views. Refuge is supposed to be a place to go to be free from the burdens of sin not a place to receive more sin.

        Equality does not mean that we violate God’s rules on right and wrong and declare evil good. A same-sex couple may be the nicest people on earth but that does not legitimize their practice of sin nor make sin acceptable to God. Nor does it change their practice from sin to sinlessness. Read 1 John on this issue.

        If you say that God is wrong, then you are saying you are greater than he and know better than he does and that is arrogance, another sin. God’s rules of right and wrong do not change with culture or the secular world’s acceptance and support of sin.

        • Cool, if I treat my slaves with respect then all is good, if I marry someone of a different race, I will not enter the kingdom of God…I think Refuge is doing the work of God as described in the sheep and the goats….

          • ah yes the absurd comes to the discussion.

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