equality & friendship changes everything.

By Kathy Escobar / April 22, 2013 / 18 Comments

last week i was at an evening centered on rape & the old testament, and it was really powerful to look at the texts through a new lens.  the most […]

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the road to equality is paved with friendship.

By Kathy Escobar / February 12, 2013 / 21 Comments

* this post is part of the february synchroblog.  this month’s topic is centered around cross-gender friendships, a topic i have written a lot about over the years. the link […]

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the christmas story, friendship, and our crazy notions about neat & tidy.

By Kathy Escobar / December 11, 2012 / 14 Comments

* today is the december synchroblog.  the topic is advent: tell me a story, places where we see God’s love & hope & peace & joy in the midst. i […]

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friendship: men & women can be friends, here's a place to start

By Kathy Escobar / August 24, 2012 / 4 Comments

* this is the final post in this series related to cultivating healthy friendship. the other posts are: mind-reading, assumptions, and saying our crazy stuff out loud, safety & boundaries […]

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friendship: learning to let go

By Kathy Escobar / August 23, 2012 / 9 Comments

* this is the 4th post of highlights from our sacred friendship summer camp, practical ideas for becoming better friends.   you can look back on the past few days to […]

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friendship: conflict is good (even though most of us hate it)

By Kathy Escobar / August 22, 2012 / 12 Comments

* this is part 3 from the refuge’s sacred friendship summer camp. the questions in bold are ones we somehow talked about together at our gathering or in the homework.  […]

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friendship: safety & boundaries aren't dumb psychology words

By Kathy Escobar / August 21, 2012 / 16 Comments

* this is the next post from friendship summer camp.  it’s interesting that even as i share these here i can hear a voice that says “where’s the scripture in […]

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friendship: mind-reading, assumptions & saying-our-crazy-stuff-out-loud

By Kathy Escobar / August 20, 2012 / 6 Comments

* thanks for bearing with me while i archived a bunch of guest posts last week.  i’m still waiting to hear back about my laptop and whether they could retrieve […]

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friendship heals.

By Kathy Escobar / June 11, 2012 / 46 Comments

“i no longer call you my servants, i call you my friends” – Jesus in april i was honored to be part of the first sacred friendship gathering in chicago, coordinated […]

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By Kathy Escobar / April 12, 2012 / 17 Comments

the refuge turns 6 years old this month!  it’s so hard to believe.  some days it seems like yesterday and other days it feels like decades ago. there are many […]

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