jezebel, eve, and the baggage we keep carrying.

By Kathy Escobar / April 5, 2017 / 11 Comments

I was out of the country in Peru last week on a fun spring break adventure with our twins, and when I got back and turned on my computer I […]

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equality & friendship changes everything.

By Kathy Escobar / April 22, 2013 / 18 Comments

last week i was at an evening centered on rape & the old testament, and it was really powerful to look at the texts through a new lens.  the most […]

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the road to equality is paved with friendship.

By Kathy Escobar / February 12, 2013 / 21 Comments

* this post is part of the february synchroblog.  this month’s topic is centered around cross-gender friendships, a topic i have written a lot about over the years. the link […]

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friendship: men & women can be friends, here's a place to start

By Kathy Escobar / August 24, 2012 / 4 Comments

* this is the final post in this series related to cultivating healthy friendship. the other posts are: mind-reading, assumptions, and saying our crazy stuff out loud, safety & boundaries […]

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By Kathy Escobar / April 12, 2012 / 17 Comments

the refuge turns 6 years old this month!  it’s so hard to believe.  some days it seems like yesterday and other days it feels like decades ago. there are many […]

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practicing friendship

By Kathy Escobar / January 31, 2012 / 20 Comments

* this is part 2 to the last post:  let’s be friends.  oh wait, we don’t know how to! i wish learning new things were as easy as taking a […]

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let's be friends. oh wait, we don't know how to!

By Kathy Escobar / January 24, 2012 / 18 Comments

“there is nothing on this earth to be more prized than true friendship.” – st. thomas aquinas remember that book, “all i ever needed i learned in kindergarten”? sure, some […]

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friendship, freedom & a lot less fear

By Kathy Escobar / August 1, 2011 / 12 Comments

“there is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.”   st. thomas aquinas uh oh, i’m on my “men and women need to learn how to […]

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over, under, beside

By Kathy Escobar / March 4, 2011 / 6 Comments

“there is always warfare in our hearts; there is always the struggle between pride and humility, hatred and love, forgiveness and the refusal to forgive, truth and the concealment of […]

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cross-gender friendships

By Kathy Escobar / March 1, 2011 / 37 Comments

if you’ve been reading here for a while you know i am extremely passionate about cross-gender friendships and men and women learning how to be with each other, side by […]

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